y’all are amazing
This is my sex-positivity. This is what I’m about.
Carol Queen is my hero
DID THIS HAPPEN ARE YOU KIDDING ME
Our First Lady everyone…
BUT THE GUY IN THE BACKGROUND HOLDING THE HOOP!!!!!!!!
By guy you mean Lebron James … an NBA star.
I will reblog this every time i see it… lmao That’s real.
Omg I wish I could hear it because her face looks like she’s yelling OOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOH lol
This is entirely too darling
Okay. I’ve got the kids into activities. Think I can go hide under the covers and cry for a few minutes. Cause I’m an adult and stuff.
Hi folks, I’m Crista and my Partner is Val. We’re an awesome couple who have been building a new life for ourselves and our kids after leaving abusive marriages. Between us we have four fantastic kids aged five and under. We are both non-able bodied, but are devoted to creating a safe, loving home that we can all flourish in. We’ve had divorces, custody issues, and intense medical bills that obliterated our savings. My partner’s health and mobility has decreased greatly over the last year, but we’ve been unable to afford the tests to get answers. Our kids are kids, broken bones and dental work have taken priority. We’ve buttoned down, exhausted creative budgeting fixes, found ways to make it work. Now, our 20 year old wagon has finally and completely died. She was a temporary transportation fix, didn’t hold everyone but got him to and from work. Picked up groceries. Got kids to the ER. Without transportation, I don’t know what we are going to do. Everything will crash to the ground if we don’t find help. Vans are 2500-3500 on craigslist in our area. Our family is trying to help but we’re all struggling. 5k gets us reliable transportation and our fence fixed so the kids can be in the yard safely. 7k and we can start getting out from under our medical debt. I’ve seen amazing things happen through campaigns, so I’m hoping for the kindness from community. If you can help us in even the smallest way, it would be everything for us. Thank you, so much.
I listened to everyone who told me to do this. Thank you guys. I seriously love you all. <3
Now I’m reading how a friend who has been family to me has a 40k set of medical bills and feel guilty. America is really fucked up.
Now I get to pretend like I’m not freaking out from the depths of my soul because if the kids see me upset, they freak.
How am I the adult who has to smile, set up watercolors and pb&j and not crawl under the covers and sob. When did that happen? I don’t think I’m ready for this.
Sorry to whine.
It comes to this
So I’ve been quiet because when it rains, it pours. Here is what is going on:
Financially, the floor has fallen out from under us. V and I have been barely making ends meet since the Cataclysm happened. So many things needed to be replaced in the aftermath, we had to fund custody issues, divorces and bills that we did not run up. That’s the way it goes though, so we put our heads down and did what we had to do.
Admittedly, I fell into a deep hole of depression/PTSD. V put the financial worries on himself and I did my best to keep the house running. My resume is all sexuality or adult industry, which is fantastic in my field but does not translate well to the mundane world. It’s made more financial sense for me to do the parenting/house spousery because childcare/transportation would cost more than I can make. It’s a sadly common place to be right now. We’ve been doing it, finding ways to support 6 people on 33k.
V’s health has been horrible. He’s lost more weight, pale, and now relies on canes/mobility devices to move around. After months of the doctor dance and what has seemed like endless tests, we still don’t know what is wrong. Had to stop because the medical bills are drowning us. Maddy broke her arm. There was christmas. Our fence died in the last snow storm. Kids have needed dental work and our insurance now only covers cleanings. I’ve completely given up on getting medical help for my needs, we just can’t do it.
All of that was scary, but we have kept on. Maxed out our credit. Applied for different social services but get turned down left and right. We make just barely too much, you guys know how it goes.
Now, our wagon has died. Dead. She’s 20 years old, has a billion miles, and has been held together with duct tape and bubble gum. She’s been in the family most of those 20 years and was always a temp transportation fix after we lost the van in the cataclysm. She didn’t have enough room to fit the entire family, but she held together to get V to and from work and groceries. Was able to get us to the ER when Rori smashed his face. Now that little security is gone.
We have four kids aged five and under in our blended family. Not having transportation for the next time one doesn’t listen, jumps off a couch and breaks something is beyond terrifying to me. We’re pretty far out of Richmond, public transportation isn’t much of an option. V can hobble together rides to and from work in the short term, but that won’t last. If he loses his job because of transportation issues, I don’t even know. I can’t think about it right now.
We can’t afford a monthly payment, at all. We just can’t. We’ve already exhausted every creative budgeting hack possible. Our families are trying to help, but they are almost all in the same boat we are.
Used vans on craigslist in our area are going for around $2500-3500. Family has been able to pull together $650. Which is amazing and wonderful. I’m well past the point of pride and am now asking our friends if anyone can help at all. Loves have said we should do a rally.org thing, I’ll prolly set one up later because I don’t know what else to do.
I know everyone is hurting right now, but if any of you can help at all, we need it. We’re awesome people who needs the help. We’ll send you hippie kid art work, I’ll gladly offer endless assistance shopping for sex toys. Teach all I know about sexuality. Offer my wisdom on poly. Work out paying anyone back over time. I’m willing to do about anything to unfuck our life. My paypal address is crista @ gmail - I’ll love you forever. (Though, that is probably already true)
Sorry to be that guy, but I’m totally that guy right now.
Just saw an ex of mine make a domestic violence joke on another friend’s feed and that was jarring.
My life has taken some amazing turns.
“Steve Carell, Jon Stewart and Stephen Colbert: How men would look if they had to pose in ads the way women are expected to.”
Yeah this definitely deserves a place on my blog
im so glad I woke up this morining
Hand holding during oral sex! Yes! I totally do this. Giving or receiving, but even moreso receiving, hand-holding intensifies the entire experience for me. It connects me to my partner in a way that I crave desperately in those moments. So glad to see it depicted.
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the new development in my chronic pain is that orgasms now give me horrible abdominal cramping. No pleasure for Garnet :(
Oh, honey. Oh, oh, oh honey.
I’m so sorry
I am a porn star. I am a college freshman. You know nothing about me…
I ask people to deconstruct why they treat female sexuality with such disdain.
Why do we call women sluts and whores? Why do we use synonyms for prostitute as some of the worst insults in the English language? Why do we shame rape victims for the unspeakably heinous crime committed against them? Why is the first question out of many people’s mouths: “What was she wearing the night in question?” Why do we condemn a woman who has had multiple sexual partners outside of marriage?