If I had not created my whole world, I would certainly have died in other people’s.
LOOK. IT’S EVERY SINGLE STEREOTYPE ABOUT MEN’S RIGHTS ACTIVISTS PUT INTO ONE HANDY-DANDY DEMOGRAPHICS SURVEY SO IT CAN BE STATISTICALLY VALIDATED!! [x]
When someone is accused of domestic violence or sexual assault, we are always asked by that person’s fans and defenders to “give them the benefit of the doubt.” Generally, this means, “Assume the survivor is lying or very confused” or “Assume the accused had a good reason to do what they did.”
How about giving the benefit of the doubt to the survivor?
Believe the survivor. Assume they are telling the truth unless there’s actually good evidence that they aren’t, because the vast majority of these types of accusations are not false. Assume that they are speaking out because they want safety and justice, not just because they want to “ruin” their abuser’s life or career.
Assume the survivor stayed with their abuser for as long as they did because abusers deliberately make it difficult or even impossible to leave, not because the survivor is somehow weak, stupid, or incompetent.
Assume the survivor was quite aware of the danger that they (and possibly their children) were in and doesn’t need to be patronizingly informed that staying with an abuser can be dangerous. So can trying to leave.
Assume the survivor is the best authority on their own experience.
Now, thanks to Facebook, I get a lot of people contacting me calling me “Louise”. Which is fine except I forget that’s supposed to be my name, I don’t answer to it very well. I think I understand why people in porn opt for their first names with a false surname, so much easier.
Also, I’m due to be a Filmmaker in Focus at the Berlin Porn Film Festival in October and their website is referring to me as Louise Lush. Who knew it would be so hard to escape a fake name?
The stupid thing is that “Louise Lush” is no more “real” than “Ms. Naughty”. They’re both just names I made up. But one is easily identifiable as a pseudonym according to various algorithms and to people who think they have a right to say what’s a “real name” and what isn’t.
This needs to be brought to attention IMMEDIATELY!!!!!
I don’t even understand what they’re expecting anymore. if they can lie to us to our face and us KNOW the truth, what power do we have , then?
Can we pretend that post I made mentioning how much faith I had in Lovey Smith making the most of the Bucs never happened?
i need ferguson to go down in history books. i need school children in the year 2074 to learn about michael brown being shot on august 9th, 2014 by officer darren wilson. i need this to spark a movement. this can not lose the focus of society a mere month after it happened.