Fuck porn. When you’re watching a porn video, there’s a high chance the woman was forced to do it, doesn’t want to do it, was pressured and threatened to do it, and is being raped. Congrats, you’re getting off on rape. And a lot of porn videos really are sex trafficked women. A lot of the time, under aged.
Um if you’re watching a porno that has an underage girl in it and you notice discomfort then you should report it. Porn is not synonymous to sex trafficking. Sex trafficking is the forcing and kidnapping of people into sexual slavery. There are many women who go into porn as they choose and enjoy it but it is the male ran porn industry which is horrid not the stars. So no, I’m not anti porn, I’m anti sex trafficking, I’m anti cis men running the porn industry while treating their employees like garbage and for the horrible and unrealistic porno videos at that. I feel for this woman and I’m listening to her but let’s not confuse sex trafficking with porn.
The above commentary is exactly what I wanted to articulate. This type of speech also needs to be very aware of erasing the autonomous decisions of women to enter the porn industry, not all of which is as described here. This is just another example of women suffering in a male controlled industry, and just like other industries, there are safe spaces being created and maintained by women for women. It seems like there’s a tendency to paint woman as sad, coerced and broken victims when their bodies are involved. I keep seeing these gif sets of ex-porn actresses describing their trauma and passing their personal experience off as every woman’s experience. Do not make decisions for other women. By all means create resources for those who seek help, but don’t just assume all porn actresses are suffering anymore than any other woman in a job they may or may not like. Do not erase their agency.
Exactly. What this woman went threw was rape but she doesn’t speak for every woman in porn. The porn industry is in need for makeover from the ground up, we need to oust cis men with patriarchal and abusive policies and power over their employees so this doesn’t happen. We need resources for women in porn that have been abused but there is nothing wrong with women going into porn. Women do choose to go into porn. Let’s not tear down their agency, their job but the people who are in control.
*I bolded the last response because, yes.*
While playing in the woods, I met my “sister from another Mother” Rachel. kindred spirits like you would not believe.
This is true. I saw a documentary about it. Men’s orgasm faces are allowed in teenage comedies rated PG13, but women’s orgasm faces can often push it into NC-17 territory, no joke.
Two cervical cancer vaccines that are recommended for all pre-teen and early teen boys and girls miss the strains most likely to infect black women,…
Having Ehlers Danlos Syndrome sometimes feels about the equivalent of being composed of jello and wet spaghetti. Nothing stays where its supposed to. Literally every single cells in the body is floppy, so fingers are definitely an issue for many of us. I can almost guarantee that for the majority of us, writing is not only slow and painful but nearly impossible at times. FIne motor skills? What even are those? An EDSer surely doesn’t have any of those. Even typing which is far easier than writing, is painful and daunting at times. But last year I joint the poppulation of shiny zebras by getting fitted for a set of Silver Rings Splints and they are beyond magical.
For those of you who have not heard of Silver Ring Splint, they are a company that custom makes finger splint that look like elegant pieces of jewelry. Don’t believe me? Well I can’t even tell you how many compliments I’ve received for them. Nobody even suspects that they might possibly be medical. But more importantly, they work amazing! I still ave hand pain and finger dislocations when performing fine motor skills and writing is definitely not something I look forward to but I have saved myself thousands of painful dislocations, I can open doors easier, type faster, write longer and hold objects in my hands without looking like an alien from a sic-fi movie. With the rings on my fingers actually look like fingers rather than tentacles!
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This came from a 32 year old man.
Literally all she said was “no.”
I’ve come to understand why, during my internet dating years, so many women responded to my inquiries (I promise I wasn’t creepy) by not responding at all. At the time it drove me crazy, the silence, even more so than the rejections. We’re both on this webspace looking to meet people, can’t you give me a simple “no thanks” so I know when to walk away?
Now I get it. If you’re a woman on the internet, every single interaction is a roll of the dice and you can never tell when that roll will come up “u ugly bitch” so it’s safer and easier to just not say anything. In the online dating world, that becomes common sense.
But never forget: there are men who don’t even wait for that reply. Just being a woman online can be enough to trigger a dice roll. Imagine if every tweet or article you wrote meant a personal insult came your way. Sure, you can block, you can mute, you can ignore, but eventually you’d start to wonder if it wouldn’t be easier to not say anything.
That’s how silencing works and it makes me furious. And to those who insist that women must “grow thicker skin” and simply “accept” the reality of online abuse, here’s a revelation for you: anyone who already suffers through a daily flood of insults or threats just to exist online has thicker skin than you. They’re the ones with the courage, not you and your false keyboard bravado.
To say nothing of the women who face real-life harassment every day, be it catcalls from strangers, an oppressive workplace, or a real-life stalker. Compared to them, we’re all cowards.
Bless you, sir.
That’s how silencing works.
I once very calmly and politely declined a proposition from a guy who contacted me on an online dating site for a random hookup (which I had clearly said I wasn’t looking for), triggering an extremely misogynistic and racist* rant. It’s been way too long for me to remember exactly what he said, but there was something about a Taco Bell boat, which was both racist total and nonsense. Fun times!
*I’m white, but of Mediterranean heritage, and have been mistaken for a variety of ethnic backgrounds. Dude decided I was lying about being white, I guess?
At the end the guy is just “my job here is done.”
this just made my day
izzy showed me this last night and i literally cried